Having a baby is a huge life adjustment. As a mom you have to adjust to a new body, new routine, new family member. As a dad you have to adjust to a new routine, a changed wife (both inside and out,) and a new family member. As a couple you have to adjust to adding a third member to the family, and learn how to come together to take care of this tiny little human being. It's no easy task.
I have been attached to this tiny little human for ten months. We were connected both physically and emotionally during pregnancy. So OF COURSE when this little guy arrived I KNEW how he should be taken care of, and it needed to my done MY way. Well, that's my initial thought. It's a struggle as a mom to learn to let go, and know that your baby is in good hands even though they are not your own. This even includes your baby's daddy.
Watching my husband become a dad has been the best experience in my entire life. From the very first time he got to hold Tristan at the hospital, to trying to feed him his dinner the other night (which was a huge mess by the way.) I look forward to the many more father/son moments that are to come. But what a struggle it has been to learn to let Bryan take care of Tristan the way that BRYAN should take care of Tristan. Yes, there are some moments where guys just do not think like girls and he utterly just does not realize that yes it it almost 60 degrees out and yes it's nice outside for you but it's windy and still not warm enough for Tristan to be without a long sleeve onesie. Or when the baby spits up all over himself and the carpet, please do not clean the carpet first and then use the same burp cloth to wipe our son's face. You watched the Kirby sales demo, and you know how dirty the carpet is. However, there are things that I honestly just need to keep my mouth shut about. So what if he uses a different colored bottle top than the bottle bottom? Is that really going to effect our son in any way? So what if our son is a disaster after he feeds him? That is what a bath is for right? And Tristan loves the bath.
It boils down to the fact that Tristan NEEDS his parents to have different parenting styles. He will distinguish what is mommy time and what is daddy time. He will know that certain things are strictly daddy, and others are strictly mommy and then there is also family things too. It will help him understand his parents, help him relate to his parents. Later down the road it will teach him that everyone is unique and does things in their own way and that it is okay cause "Baby You are Born This Way." LOL That statement just totally reminded me of Lady GaGa. Crazy Monster Diva aside, Bryan and I individually bring out the good each other and make a strong team raising our son together. While it's a battle I fight to keep my mouth shut, I just know in the end it will benefit our son and THAT is the ultimate goal.
